Thoughts Part 2

To all the single people, some of us want to be single, some of us long for companionship, some are single cause they been hurt before & dont want to feel that pain ever again & i say forget that.  I have had my share of women some I prefer not to mention, some of which ya already know, some of them was like damn what was i thinking( I am sure most of us have had at least one of those) & a couple may be reading this right now. But what I'm saying is nobody truly wants to be lonely, if you say you do your lying point blank. Ive been hurt (cheated on) by a couple girlfriends who i cared for very much.Ive also hurt myself by making a mistake(No I never cheated). But i will tell you this I would risk getting hurt again and again, if it meant that the next one/or best one would show me that real love powerful enough to pick up all them pieces from the past throw them out and fill it with new pieces that erases the pain yet keeps the appreciation. I mean I have my faults I know I do. I never had a problem getting back on the horse, it might take a couple of months if even that but i get back on, Yet I never go into it thinking she is going to be like that last one, I treat every woman I meet as an individual until she shows me otherwise. I refuse to let a chickenhead or should i say a woman who hasn't grown up yet take away from the possibility. I feel as if I let a real good one get away  but some of you want to live life with eyes wide shut & its gonna end up biting you in your ass. Oh and before I forget whoever said you cant find a good catch at a club, Go to church or a library, please save it. Yes the ratio may be lower but fact is there are chickenheads everywhere especially nowadays. But beautiful respectable women do go to clubs & what would be considered hoes do go to church so get off that. Aight listen I'm very humble and everyday, something new happens to make sure I stay humble but at the same time, I am a confident Man far from cocky just feel the overall qualities I possess are unmatched. I know single people who wanna act like they enjoy waking up to someone new every week( i was one of those people) when in reality they long for someone they can let their guard down for, but ya already know its a 2-way street, so if you yourself dont make the effort to at least let them peek in to your heart then how can they even begin to heal the pain if you chose to hide it.  In my life I have experienced many things, learned many lessons one thing is for sure I have never experienced something as exciting as the possibility of love. I felt it all too briefly and as i said before I let a good one get away.. A great one that I admire from a far, out of respect til this day. I have dreams of tremendous beauty yet alot of the times she has no face, not sure if its because I have yet to meet her or if its because she is too far to be reached or possibly she is close enough to make it happen or even someone i would not make a move on unless she makes it first. Its quite possible that her face as beautiful as it is, is not what captivates me most about her. & Just in case you are wondering its not her body either. Its her inner qualities, that has held most my dreams captive. Basically I know what I am looking for & I'm at the stage in my life where i'd rather be single then in bad company. But I will take a chance if I feel there's a chance there to take. We as people tend to take for granted the little things that really matter most at the end of the day. We tend to overlook things that weeks months or years down the road we cant help but remember most. It can only take a second to mess up something u built years to create and faith and time are the only thing that can rebuild that....(to be continued)

Thoughts part 1 From a single man

To all those in relationships, cherish the one you're with, you don't realize how good you have it. Don't let the ego & pride get in the way of something that isn't broken and therefore doesn't need fixing. Too many times people ruin something that could have been great out of the fear of MAYBE getting hurt. But you owe it to yourself to take that chance especially in today's world, where truth be told women are just as bad if not worse than men nowadays in regards to the unfaithfulness, lies, & sneakiness. FYI, I admire all those women who have chosen not to stoop to the level of them guys that give men like me a bad name. Too many times relationships end just because of selfishness. If you say you love someone yet refuse to open yourself up to what they love or love to do, is it really love or simply an extended good time? Compromise & opening yourself up to trying new things is a must if you wanna keep a relationship, along with the given communication & trust. Stop looking at her/him as someone who did you wrong in the past, understand its someone new who can easily be someone you pushed away, if you don't smarten up. Come on there's nothing like waking up next to someone you adore & know she is yours. Someone who when you look deep into her eyes, you are at a loss for words, while your mind envisions what paradise looks like with her by your side. Some people jump into marriage cause they found someone who can tolerate them, yet instead of understanding they no longer single, they do the exact same thing they were doing before, so why get married? Never understood that. I also never understood why so many women stay in abusive relationships and/or ones with obvious cheating, why? Those that stay in it for the kids, that is somewhat understandable, unless of course they exhausted the possibility of working it out. Believe me the kids would be much better off with 1 parent then having to watch their mother get beaten for not having the food ready in time or what have you. Trust think about it when you say for the kids. Now there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, we all know that, but there are ones close enough to it that are worth fighting for. Let me say this, the ONE might have broken your heart, but have you ever stopped to think, you might be pushing away the ONE from healing that very heart.